Correct me if I’m wrong, but I think we’ve all struggled with confidence at least once throughout our lives.
Personally, I’ve struggled a lot.
I always say you couldn’t pay me 1 million dollars to go back to high school. Those were some tough years for me and I’m sure some of you can relate.
I felt so insecure and lacked confidence immensely, which led me to miss out on a lot of things like being on sports teams, trying out for roles in school musicals, running for president on student council, etc.
Looking back on it now, I see that whatever confidence I did have throughout elementary school vanished once high school rolled around because I actually was on sports teams, lead roles in school musicals and plays, and president of student council while in elementary school.
So, what happened when I began high school?
I don’t think I’ll ever really know what my issue was with having confidence in myself throughout high school, but I’m sure one thing had to do with it – boys.
I felt like they were judging me all of the time, which leads me to the topic of today’s post – having confidence around males while working out at the gym.
A very special reader of mine emailed me yesterday asking me if I’d write a post about having confidence while working out around males at the gym. This reader is used to working out in ladies only gyms, but with a new training program, she now has to do portions of her workouts in the co-ed section of her gym and feels very uncomfortable.
Personally, I’m the opposite of my reader as I feel much more intimidated and judged while working out in the ladies only portion of my gym, however, even though I don’t feel the same way while working out around males as my reader does, I still wanted to write this post and provide her (and you) with tips on how to feel comfortable while working out around males and gain confidence.
So, I asked the males in my life, “what are your thoughts about the ladies working out around you at the gym?”
Every response I received had to do with being “impressed” with women working out. One even said, “I always think, good for them for getting out and doing something!” I also had someone say, “Typically, we’re so involved in our workouts that we don’t even notice others around us.” Therefore, we really have nothing to worry about while working out around males at the gym because all in all they don’t really notice us anyways and if they do their actually impressed with what we are doing!
But, if you’re still struggling with confidence around the males while at the gym even after reading the feedback I received from males themselves, I’ve put together a few tips that I keep in mind while at the gym which help me to stay focused on myself and my workout:
- Remember you are working out for you and no one else. This is your time, so make the best of it.
- Think if you personally care about the people and what they’re doing around you. The answer is probably not, right? So, why would they care about what you’re doing?
- Remind yourself that if someone is looking at you they are probably impressed with whatever you’re doing.
- Wear a ball cap. Whenever I wear a ball cap to the gym I get less people looking at and talking to me.
- Fake it. If you’re not totally comfortable with your workout or where you’re working out, fake it until you are! In time, you’ll get more and more comfortable with what you’re doing. Everything takes time.
- Focus on the muscles being worked. When you put all your focus on the muscles being used for the particular exercise your doing, all your other thoughts, concerns, and worries seem to disappear because your attention in being focused entirely on something else – your workout! (the most important thing!)
- Play music. I was never really big on using headphones or earbuds and playing music during my workouts (I always felt like a trapped animal trying to claw my way out of the cords if they ever got tangled), but recently I’ve been playing music throughout my workouts and I’ve noticed that it actually helps me focus on my workout more and forget about the distractions around me.
- Envision a goal. If you have a goal (whether it be physical or strength related), envision it! When keeping your goal in mind, you may find that you’re able to concentrate on your workout better and utilize the time that you’re at the gym more efficiently and effectively rather than worrying about what the people around you are doing and thinking.
Ultimately, it comes down to confidence and like I said, it takes time. But, I want all of you to feel confident while at the gym because you are there for you and no one else!
So, go to the gym today, tomorrow, or whenever you plan to go next with confidence and if you don’t totally feel it – fake it until you do
What are some of your tips for staying focused on your workouts while at the gym?
Do you feel more confident while training near males or females?
Before I say goodbye for the day, I wanted to give a special thank you to my reader who requested the topic for today’s post. I always love hearing from my readers and enjoy writing posts that answer their specific questions and concerns. So, if you have a topic you’d like me to address on my blog, please let me know! My email address is email@example.com
Also, don’t forget that today is the last day to submit a high five for tomorrow’s High Five Friday and that I am hosting a giveaway for Muesli Fusion that you should enter!
Have a great day!